10 life lessons we learned from Sex and the City
As AXN India brings back the all-time favorite show on TV, here’s a recap of 10 life lessons we learned from Sex and the City that will always remain useful.
Some shows last forever. If not on the screens then in our hearts. It has been 20 years since the romantic comedy Sex and the City came into our lives and entertained for 8 long years with lessons in sex and relationships. And even today, Carrie’s wisdom, Miranda’s formidability, Charlotte’s quirkiness and Samantha’s tenacity is as amusing and relevant as it was then (if not more!). As AXN India brings back the all-time favorite show on TV, here’s a recap of 10 life lessons we learnt from ‘Sex and the City’ that will always remain useful.
1. Be Bold
Samantha waited hours in a restaurant for a hot waiter to finish his shift, so she could go home with
him. She even PAID the one other woman still waiting to leave. Which is a little extreme, but that
waiter was also Jerrod, and it worked. So, if you want something, go for it. And if someone is turned off by you going after what you want, what does that say about them? Nothing good.
2. Looks aren't everything
Harry wasn't who Charlotte thought she'd end up with, but he turned out to be her happily ever after. The message? Don't write someone off just because they're "not your type" physically. A pretty face will only take you so far, and a wonderful human being can end up being way sexier than any wannabe-model.
3. What other people think isn't that important
Samantha was a total boss. She lived her life according to her terms and didn't let anyone dictate to her. In her own immortal words, "I will not be judged by you or society. I will wear whatever, and blow whomever I want, as long as I can breathe and kneel." If you're happy, forget the haters and live your life how you want to live it.
4. Everything happens in its own time
You can't hurry love, you'll just have to wait i.e. ignore all the pressure out there to find someone.
Look at what happened to Charlotte. She put so much pressure on herself to find "The One" and live
her perfect magazine life, that she married Trey MacDougal, Man Baby of all Man Babies and she
ended up divorced.
5. It’s ok to put yourself first
They say true love is loving someone more than you love yourself. But if you're not happy, what's the point of being in a relationship? No matter how gorgeous and sweet Jerrod was, no matter how much he and Samantha loved each other, or how much we all shipped them as a couple, it wasn't right for Samantha and she needed to pursue her own happiness.
6. You can't pressure someone into loving you
Ending something because the other person will never be able to emotionally commit? Good. Trying
to force someone emotionally unavailable to tell you-you're the one? Bad.
You can't change someone, so if they're not right, leave. Hey, you never know. Maybe they'll follow
you to Paris six years later and finally tell you-you're the one.
7. Sometimes, they're just not that into you
Clichés are there for a reason, and pretty much no one who's ever moaned, "why aren't they texting
me?!" has ever ended up with the person they're moaning about (and if they have, they're the exception).
People put in the amount of effort they want to put in. So, if it feels like someone isn't giving you
100%, chances are it's because they just don't want to.
8. Communication is key
If something was bothering Samantha, she wasn't afraid to say it. No matter how intimate. How can anyone know what's going on if you don't tell them? No one's a mind reader, and sometimes you have to explain exactly what you're experiencing to help your other half understand. That's true both in the bedroom and out.
9. You need to be able to forgive
Miranda broke it off with Steve, turned down his marriage proposal, and then realized she made a
mistake. Steve cheated on Miranda while they were going through a rough patch in their marriage,
and she managed to forgive him (on the Brooklyn Bridge no less). People make mistakes, and loving someone means loving and accepting all of them – the flaws and imperfections too.
10. Above all, remember that relationships may come and go, but true friendship is forever
No matter what happened, Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda, and Samantha were there for each other
through thick and thin. There may be loads of great, nice guys in your life, but sometimes your
soulmates are the besties standing right by your side. Because as Carrie once said, “They say nothing lasts forever…dreams change, trends come and go, but friendships never go out of style.”
These four New York women supported us through first dates, first jobs, and first high-fashion
outfits. They were there for us after every break-up and consoled us after a bad haircut. We turned
to them for relationship advice, fashion advice, and career advice. And while not all of their advice
worked out perfectly on screen, they always managed to figure it out with a little help from their
friends. Because regardless of babies or boys, these four women were soulmates. And now it’s time
to relive our best times with them only on AXN, every Monday – Friday at 11 PM.