Is micro-mance the new definition of ‘little things’ in romance?

Have you been bringing flowers or chocolates or teddies or any of your partner’s favourite things when they feel low? Have you been cooking at home and setting up intimate date nights just so that the two of you can spend quality time together? Have you ever slipped in a piece of chocolate in the locker or bag during your teenage romance days? Then do you know that all these finer things that you have been pursuing to keep the relationship afloat are now termed as micro-mance. While the term seems to be very fancy, the act itself is far from it. In fact, these mini pursuits of love actually go on to strengthen the relationship and make the couple fall in love with each other again with every ‘tiny’ act. 

What are the ground rules of micro-mance that makes your relationship bloom?

While there is no perfect formula that can ever tell a person how to carry on in a relationship, one can always keep a few things in mind while being at it. And micro-mance needs one to observe, understand and reciprocate, keeping the tiniest things in mind. So no harm in going through a checklist time to time!

Understanding is the key

It is said that it takes a lifetime to understand a person. But there has to be a starting point. When you get into a relationship, it is best to start noticing small behavioral habits and gestures that would help you understand your partner better. Develop on these so that you can understand the finer things they are attracted to in life. It may be a habit of drinking hot chocolate in the mornings rather than tea or coffee; or having a lucky colour which they either wear or accessorise themselves with before any important event.

Make a debut

After you have been observing your partner’s habits for quite some time, try stepping in to be there for them. Offer them a ride if they love long drives or just walk along with them if they prefer long walks. Try to remember important dates like first meeting, first date, birthday, relationship anniversaries and offer small gifts like a dinner date, flowers or anything they prefer according to their personalities. T is important to keep their likes and dislikes in mind and yours aside while going into finer things in life. It can even be something as simple as letting them win in a board game despite knowing you are a better player.

Be consistent

Once you start triggering micro-mance, you cannot stop. Consistency is the key to not only progress in the relationship but also to start receiving reciprocation from your partner.  Once they begin to understand that you are there for them no matter what, their trust on your starts growing. This leads them to want to push their boundaries and offer more to the relationship.

Avoid stalemate

As you progress in a relationship it is important to re-evaluate your actions. Are you engaging in repetitive acts? Is your pattern of doing things becoming monotonous? Is it always the same kind of actions that you perform together? Or it can also be that with time as a person grows mature their philosophies, likes and dislikes also change. It is thus important to keep a track of changes and monotony.

The next road would be to move out of the comfort zone and reboot your actions. If vacations on the beach are the norm, try paragliding in the hills or glamping in the woods under the starry sky. If going to the parks are regular, then maybe try and offer your service at an animal shelter or an old-age home. Each of these acts would not only bring novelty but also help in maturing the relation where you get to know a wonderful new side of each other.

 Silence has its own language

Bonus tip, knowingly or unknowingly always understand the meaning of silence. While it is often taken in jest that men listen quietly while women speak, sometimes staying quiet is the best comfort that can be provided. Love blossoms when at the end of the day your partner has someone to listen to them not just their rants but what they have in mind. Love blossoms when at an emotional low there is silence and just a much –need hug. Love blossoms when celebrations are intimate, under the night sky wrapped in a blanket with roasted marshamallow or red wine by the side. All these and more sometimes have deeper meanings than words could convey. Thus, silence is an extremely important language of micro-mance, apart from actions itself.