Kirti Kulhari and Maanvi Gagroo share dating tips for women who want to make the first move
The duo appeared as best friends on the hugely popular show Four More Shots Please
On the latest episode of Dating These Days, a show about dating by Bumble, host Rytasha Rathore will take actresses Kirti Kulhari and Maanvi Gagroo on a nostalgic journey the days of their high school life. The two discuss how they were conditioned to be afraid of rejection, hence the looming denial about making the first move as a teenager! They also further busted some myths in the episode about deriving validation from the opposite sex, developing your self-worth; and dissociating the self from any rejection whatsoever.
Maanvi said, “When we are in our formative years, in our teenage years – your interaction with the opposite sex or the same sex, it's far stronger, it has a greater influencer, a deeper influencer – I think at that time, we end up putting too much importance, we derive validation only from that – from the opposite sex. It’s also the time when your kind of building your self-esteem and your self-worth. So, they do go all hand in hand. You have to develop your self-esteem, your self-worth, and separate yourself from another person. Nobody can just decide your worth.” Meanwhile, Kirti shared how each one of us should approach rejection without fearing the worst and said, “We need to take a step back and analyse how much impact it actually causes to us before reacting.” She revealed how she made the first move with her husband when she approached him to marry her, something she believes she built only because she decided there was a bolder narrative behind making the first move.
She further iterated, “Everyone’s scared of being judged or being too forward. I also feel that the fear of rejection comes from low self-worth, low self-esteem. Rather than thinking about the other person and the way they are looking at you and what they will think of you, figure all that out as regards yourself. The whole scenario is changing a lot, there is so much more – there are so many girls making choices in their life.”